Motivation comes from within

Motivation comes from within

February 28, 2013

By: Gina Yoryet Roman

I'd been thinking about it for rather long but in reality, all I needed was a slight push to start integrating two weekly 5am routines. So far, one is nailed down, the second one is yet to happen (tomorrow). That light prod came to me unexpectedly but quite suitable last Saturday when I encountered a gym acquaintance who I originally met sometime last August. 

F, a young fitness enthusiast who is struggling to keep his weight down like many of us, commented that he is/was trying to get motivated to make his morning workouts as well but he has not able to get himself together.

Standing there chatting at the gym all to ourselves, we agreed to make that long-awaited come back last Monday. I was honestly not motivated in the least. The question was, what impulsed me to get on my feet that early once again? My competitive nature, the fact that I abhor losing, my womanly word, the compromise. 

At 5 am sharp there I was! I beat him to it. That fed my ego and rubbed it on his face when he arrived 15 minutes later. 

"What a nice way to get encouraged!" I pondered. Truthfully, deep down, I know that the minute I set my mind, heart and soul, I become very determined. So my thought was basically, "Motivation is internal, nobody can really motivate someone else, it comes down to just getting it down yourself."

Ok, when I can't seem to get a hold of myself (that is exactly where I stand physically as I type), I go through brief pity parties but once I'm on the rebound, I  get stronger, more decisive, constant and persevering. 

That is backed up with the perfect armor to nurture my most important spheres; my mind, body and soul.

To improve my writing and keep coming up with ideas and stay encouraged:

I drown in others' writing: Magazines, newspapers, books, internet articles, etc.

I thoroughly skim through their work and pay careful attention to their style, order and wording.

To avoid getting sad or lonely, to stay away from distractions and "bad influence," (I don't always succeed) and to avoid getting carried away in vanity, greed and empty and materialistic matters and to get motivated instead, this is what's worked once I'm focused:

Volunteer work, a great channel to pull me through.

To improve my teaching skills:

Hands on practice kicks in to help me learn by sharing my knowledge with others. 

To improve my translation/interpretation skills and to keep my enthusiasm going:

I attend workshops, get intake from other experts, do my homework to keep the flow going. 

My incentive to keep life as simple as possible and to keep my drive: 

Meet ordinary people, talk to them and learn from them.

Read successful people's biographies and/or blogs. 

Or simply meet people from all walks of life to induce myself even more and to be grateful for what I have. 

While working on those small details, I am biding my time, awaiting for what I like to call "my trial" to conclude. One day it will pay off every single suffering moment. I mean, if Mandela patiently waited 27 seven years in prison and Darwin's hope to prove what he believed in, the theory of relativity, never withered, I can compile all my work from 17+ years to be drawn together into one. All arduous work may not be immediately acknowledged but one day in the near future, it'll have its rewards. 

Why not be a Dolores Huerta, a Nancy Galan founder of the Adelante Movement, or a fabulous, intelligent, and talented Mexican Cuaima like Esmeralda Yesica Garcia or Olga Maria Morales?

Keep pushing it to be bigger and better every day!

God always forgives, humans sometimes forgive…time NEVER forgives

God always forgives, humans sometimes 

forgive…time NEVER forgives

February 25, 2013

By: Gina Yoryet Roman

Just because our plans are to end something, doesn’t mean they are God’s. And just because we make mistakes -big or small- doesn’t mean He can’t fix them.

I do reflecting a whole lot, and often ask the purpose of each object, person and being in this world. One of the most tangled up topics, are relationships. It takes the littlest tension to destroy a lifetime's worth. 

We are fond of each other, yet we neglect to mend the small and insignificant matters. From own experience and others', I have witnessed one relationship after another being fragmented into tiny particles unable to be put back into its original shape. 

I don't like judging anyone because their reasoning is unknown to me but I do question, "what would it take to pick up the phone or do whatever it takes to reach out and drop nothing but caring words such as, "I love you, I want you back in my life?" It's like they said, it is easier said than done!

A million reasons and excuses: 

Pride, anger, resentment, hurt, disbelief, lack of trust, skepticism, fear of getting rejected, lack of faith, affliction, etc.

Last year I lost a very close friend of mine who for unexplained reasons decided to vanish. She was going through a very dark stage at that moment and as much as I offered to be there, she simply distanced herself. A few months later, I called her wanting to reconnect… that didn't happen. I still don't blame her but I do wonder what made her take the decision to eliminate me from her life. Perhaps I was not a good friend, not attentive enough. Maybe I was so involved in my own affairs, casting aside her suffering? I was given the benefit of the doubt and I accept it. There was never an argument, disagreement or tension between us, or so I believed. Regardless of all this, the times spent with her will be cherished for as long as I shall live. 

Relationships like this, are almost impossible to disregard because of such deep bonds. They can impulse us to make an effort and build the strength to try and re-establish them because even if we may not want them, that is NOT necessarily what God's got lined up for us. 

I would love our paths to reconnect to resume our friendship one day. More after watching "power to change," When there's true love and affection, I believe in second chances. It takes a lot of work, energy, effort, and will, to put the pieces back together. That's why  I never gave anyone a second opportunity before, but now I try to be reasonable to the ones I care about deeply and when I am given an opportunity because life is too short and tomorrow may be too late…

God always forgives, humans sometimes 

forgive…time NEVER forgives

Fitness w/out cruelty

Fitness w/out cruelty

February 24, 2013

By: Gina Yoryet Roman

The best thing for a runner, would be to never let go. That is exactly what I envisioned 10, 15 years ago when I was at the peak of my fitness career and injury free. I could not imagine life without running.

That fantasy vanished a few years back (It'll be four years on June 17 since I was forced to break off my affair with strolling, I hope not for good though).

Giving running a momentary break was NOT the end of my fitness career. Yes, running will always be my number one option but I've found other alternatives to stay lean, clean and healthy. 

On the same day, June 17 (2012), Jalisco held its very first women's 100 meter race at La Gran Plaza Fashion Mall. The first 150 meter race wearing 5 centimeter (at least) heels, took place in Mexico City, on the 27 of the prior month. 

The women who participated in these races came together to raise funds to fight against cancer, child malnutrition and other causes. 

As a health and fitness advocate, I support this good deed. On the other hand, I am all for fitness without cruelty. Perhaps I am not looking at the whole picture but I don't get why women have to put themselves through such ordeal, running in heels! 

On a daily basis women look stunning wearing those amazing stilettos but at the end of the day, is such torture really worth the effort? It's like they say, beauty has a price BUT heels bring more disadvantages than advantages. 

Pros:

1) They make women look sexier

2) They help petite women add a few inches

3) They are an automatic male magnet

4) They make us look more feminine 

5) They are stylish

6) They help bring about an attractive posture

7) They are elegant

8) They complement clothes: outfits, dresses, skirts, pants, etc.

Cons:

1) They make walking difficult

2) They tense up and pressure the entire body, especially the lower back. 

3) They cause blisters

4) They develop red and yellow patches on feet. 

5) They can cause deformities on feet and legs

6) They cause leg sprain

Surprisingly, the female gender will never give them up and the male kind will always support us wearing them because ladies all for beauty and sex appeal and men love that. To the point that prior dancer Coryelle Abney came up with, Hop Heel last year, a type of gymnastics or dance routine wearing heels.

In Kansas City, Stiletto Fitness Classes have also become very popular. I wonder why these tendencies are increasing quite rapidly if traumatologists contradict such practices?

I am not against them but I only wear them very sporadically, on special occasions. Simplicity is closer to my slogan. Yes, men prefer heels, yes, they help women look like bomb shells, and all those goodies but why make my feet suffer? 

My point is, that fitness and suffering don't go hand in hand. Why wear heels during a work out session when there are hundreds of comfy, stylish, soft and supporting trainers to perform a good fitness class without cruelty? 

Focus & discipline

Focus and discipline

February 23rd, 2013

By: Gina Yoryet Roman

Five weeks after dragging a throat infection, I am finally reaching the end of it. It was very bothersome because a throat virus had never been this long lasting. Finally on Tuesday morning I came down with a cold, had a stuffy nose, watery eyes, felt lightheaded, and puny and my cough was non stop day and night. 

I was not in the mood of going to the gym due to insufficient strength and motivation.

But I set my mind and forced myself to JUST DO IT!

I only managed to do a 30 minute power walk, 10 minutes on the elliptical and a few abs here and there.

40 minutes later I went straight to shower, checked out and came right back.

On Thursday I felt somewhat better so I drive to Sports Fitness (which is a bit further out), the other gym where I train only to find out my membership expired on the 18th! In less than five seconds I came up with an excuse to be let in and so it happened! 

I was still not that motivated to work out, was more lured to step into the sauna and interested in saying hello to the trainer, a friend of mine I met there last August. My time there was more productive than Tuesday.

Total time: 1hr, 10 minutes.

30 minute power walk

10 minute bike

Knee therapy and strengthening exercises, plus abs and stretching.

Today I almost skipped my session again but despite that, I hopped out of bed without a problem because I am marking my time frame, getting physically and mentally ready and make the transition to my early am routines as of this coming Monday. My goal for March is to do two early and two pm routines to make sure I am well rested and to avoid looking like a zombie. 

The last few days made me reinforce my mental state and push myself since I am on a kickoff till May. That's about 10 weeks to be exact. PM workouts just don't do it for me for numerous reasons:

1) My gym is a tiny little boxing ring which is packed, suffocating and smelly. Some people don't even bother wiping their sweat off the machines. YUCK!

2) Too many distractions; I either catch myself talking to a cutie for too long, or I end up lingering around for someone to get through with their workout so I can use the machines.

3) I can never seem to get my full mojo going because everyone stares through the mirror and that really makes me uncomfortable.

4) It is harder to get motivated, my workouts are longer and I waste a lot more time than in the morning.

Hence, I concluded that where I stand now,  motivation, focus and discipline is what I need to shoot for. Why? I am feeling the pressure (the good kind). I mean, my body has changed A LOT since I last did a sporting event or any professional photo shoot that I don't know how the whole me will react. 

I will have to push myself like I have many times, but what dispirits me (stress wise, not sadness wise) is my knee. It's been three months since I paid a visit to the slaughterhouse and there's still pain, throbbing and swelling. I wonder how much longer it'll be before I can start feeling normal again and when will I be able to perform at my max.

I'm wondering how to juggle those small issues against me to give it all I've got, and get motivated, focused and disciplined. On the other hand I am really looking forward to THE day!

A lot of things are inherent

A lot of things are inherent

February 21st, 2013

By: Gina Yoryet Roman

Last night's chat with a friend made me reminiscence of the good 'ole days during my alma matter years. They were one of the most remarkable stages in my early life because that is where I met my true love. THE one…or so that's what my deceitful heart and tricky mind made me believe. Although we soon parted our separate ways due to unexpected circumstances, about eight years later our paths reunited. 

We both were caught in a roller coaster of emotions which led us to give it another shot. Making the long story short, we had grown apart and things were undoubtedly not the same. All the prior years of respect and transparency were dumped at once. Needless to say, that relationship was irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged…and even shattered. Things were NEVER the same and we definitely didn't strove for it. Shortly after, that episode was wrapped up for good. 

The first time we split up, that empty void was never filled. It felt somewhat like this:

“You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” 

Time after I found a new job and while picking up the small particles of my broken heart, I encountered my soon to be "the greatest love of all time." I ignore the what, where, when, how, why…things happened at the blink of an eye when it was least expected.

We came across too many determining factors that forced us to follow separate paths. Distance only made my heart grow fonder this time. Unlike the first time, my mind, heart and soul indicated that he was my soul mate. 

We reunited again about a year and a half later but the enchantment was not long-lasting either (I would have to write a book to talk about all that episode); in other words, value didn't have a value because neither one of us gave value its value.

What I've learned from these experiences, is to juggle the game of life and accept that the ball will NOT always bounce right back. Sometimes it will bounce lower than ever, therefore our job is to get a hold of it, make it find its equilibrium and stay put.We must keep that frail crystal ball together at all times because once it breaks, it will never be put back to its original form. 

I've also learnt that life is about winning, losing, accepting and letting go. 

And to strongly believe in love. The love of a true and loyal friend, that of a mother, the love of life and existence as a whole… that is why I am biding my time for THE one to better understand the purpose of humanity, the meaning of two becoming one. 

“A lot of things are inherent in life -change, birth, death, aging, illness, accidents, calamities, and losses of all kinds- but these events don't have to be the cause of ongoing suffering. Yes, these events cause grief and sadness, but grief and sadness pass, like everything else, and are replaced with other experiences. The ego, however, clings to negative thoughts and feelings and, as a result, magnifies, intensifies, and sustains those emotions while the ego overlooks the subtle feelings of joy, gratitude, excitement, adventure, love, and peace that come from Essence. If we dwelt on these positive states as much as we generally dwell on our negative thoughts and painful emotions, our lives would be transformed.” 

― Gina Lake, What about Now?

Why lowering your cholesterol won’t prevent heart disease

Februay 20, 2013 

Why lowering your cholesterol won’t prevent heart disease

Many people believe that managing cholesterol is key to preventing heart disease. That is not necessarily so. Here are six common misconceptions…

NOT TRUE: Most heart attack patients have high cholesterol.

About half of heart attack patients turn out to have perfectly normal cholesterol. When Harvard researchers analyzed data from the Nurses’ Health Study, they found that about 82% of heart attacks and other “coronary events” were linked to smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, obesity, a lack of exercise and poor diet—not high cholesterol.

NOT TRUE: All LDL “bad” cholesterol is dangerous.

Some forms of LDL are harmful, but others are not. The standard cholesterol test doesn’t make this distinction. You can have sky-high LDL with a low risk for heart disease. Conversely, even if your LDL is low, your risk for heart disease could be high.

Scientists have identified several subtypes of LDL that act in totally different ways. For example, subtype A is a large, pillowy molecule that does not cause atherosclerosis, the underlying cause of most heart attacks. Subtype B, a small, dense molecule, is dangerous because it is prone to oxidation and can penetrate artery walls, one of the first steps in heart disease.

What to do: Ask your doctor for an expanded cholesterol test. It will measure the different types of LDL particles and the number of particles as well as triglycerides, HDL and other substances. The test probably won’t be covered by insurance, but it’s reasonably priced—usually around $100.

NOT TRUE: Cholesterol should be as low as possible.

It doesn’t matter if your total cholesterol is above or below 200 mg/dL. What matters is your size pattern, the ratio of small-to-large LDL molecules.

Suppose your LDL is high, with a large concentration of fluffy, subtype-A particles. This is known as Pattern A. Your cholesterol-associated risk for heart disease is negligible.

You do have to worry if you have Pattern B. It means that you have a lot of the artery-damaging subtype-B particles and that your risk for heart disease is elevated. The expanded cholesterol test can help determine this.

NOT TRUE: You need a statin if you have high LDL.

The statin medications, such as simvastatin (Zocor) and atorvastatin (Lipitor), can help some patients with high LDL. If your LDL is Pattern B, a statin could save your life. You probably don’t need a statin, or any other cholesterol-lowering drug, if you have Pattern A.

There’s good evidence that statins are effective for secondary prevention—they help prevent subsequent heart attacks in patients (especially middle-aged men) who already have had a heart attack. This is not because of a cholesterol-lowering effect but because statins stabilize plaque, thin the blood and are anti-inflammatory.

Overall, however, statins don’t do much for primary prevention (preventing a heart attack in patients who don’t have existing heart disease).

If you’re generally healthy and your only “symptom” is high cholesterol, you probably don’t need a statin or any other cholesterol-lowering drug.

NOT TRUE: Saturated fat is dangerous.

Forget what you’ve heard—the saturated fat in red meat, butter and eggs does not increase your risk for heart disease.

Researchers from Harvard and other institutions analyzed 21 previous studies that looked at the relationship between saturated fat and heart disease. Their meta-analysis included nearly 350,000 subjects who were followed for between five and 23 years. Conclusion:Saturated fat did not cause an increase in heart disease or stroke.

NOT TRUE: Carbohydrates are healthier than fats.

The conventional advice to substitute carbohydrates for dietary fat is misguided—and dangerous.

A Harvard study compared the progression of heart disease in postmenopausal women who changed their intakes of certain foods, including carbohydrates and saturated fat. The researchers found that women who ate more saturated fat had less disease progression. Those who ate more carbohydrates got worse.

Another study found that the risk for a heart attack was higher in patients who replaced saturated fat with refined carbohydrates.

Not all carbohydrates are bad. People who eat healthy carbs—such as whole grains, legumes and vegetables—will probably do better, regardless of their fat intake. What people tend to eat, however, is refined carbohydrates—white bread, white rice and desserts.

Sugar is particularly bad because it increases arterial inflammation, insulin levels and blood pressure. It also elevates triglycerides, one of the main heart disease risk factors.

What helps: The best ways to reduce your risk for heart disease include maintaining a healthy weight, exercising regularly and not smoking.

Source: Jonny Bowden, PhD, CNS, a nutritionist and nationally known expert on weight loss, nutrition and health. Based in Los Angeles, he is board-certified by the American College of Nutrition and a member of the American Society of Nutrition. He is author, with Stephen Sinatra, MD, of The Great Cholesterol Myth: Why Lowering Your Cholesterol Won’t Prevent Heart Disease—and the Statin-Free Plan That Will (Fair Winds). www.JonnyBowden.com

NOT the right time or place...nor THE right some1

NOT the right time or place…

NOR THE right some1

February 19, 2013

By: Gina Yoryet Roman

6:30 pm last night was a time to determine the right time, place, THE someone (Phil my photographer decided ME to be that someone last March), the right outfit, the lighting, the scenario, conservative/non-conservative, au natural or conceal my face under coats of makeup, indoor/outdoor, and the whole nine yards for this afternoon's scheduled photo shoot.

As I got closer to La Quinta Real to meet up Phil, I couldn't avoid feeling antsy when I tried to think of a way to break it all out to him. How will it sound better?

"Phil, I can't do this…at least not now."

"Phil, would you mind holding off till you come back?

"Phil, I am not ready physically, I mean, it's only been four weeks since I made a slow transition to my routine and I am not at my 100%."

"Phil, I am lacking A LOT of self-confidence and on top of that, I am camera shy!"

Ok, yes, let's say I can pose for a camera without a problem but when I have what I am missing right now.

1) Focus

2) Self-confidence (Now is NOT the time to capture my face or body on a book cover. Since March when he laid out the whole scenario, it didn't occur to me that this was the plan from the get-go. I am ok with that but not under these physical circumstances…I will get there in May….That's why I didn't feel any excitement until last night when I was driving home. What!? I am going to be on the cover of a book!? WOW, WOW!

3) I am at a 70% fitness wise, therefore it is impossible for me to focus or to feel self-confident.

The minute I spotted Phil's affable face at the lobby, and especially after we hugged, my nervousness lessened. 

He must've read my mind because right after we sat down, he commented, "Gina, I would like to postpone the photo shoot because this trip was a last minute thing, I've been sick with a cold, we are both very tight on time, plus I want to do it right and take my time."

His decision couldn't have suited me any better. "That is completely ok with me Phil because I am actually not physically ready, I am at my lowest ever on a fitness level, actually May is fine with me, that'll give me another 10-12 weeks to feel better about myself."

So my fitness quest shall embark today….

Some gym buddies tell me that I look just fine when I told them about putting off the photo session but they are not aware about what is going on inside, my body is not as trim, I lost most (if not all) of my muscle, strength, and endurance. I am not the same…

My body is in desperate need of my high-rendering crack of dawn routines. It is starting to yearn for the million per hour mornings filled with adrenaline and stamina. I do admit that the longer hours of zzzz's are benefiting me more, being sleep deprived can get crazily overwhelming.

In order to reach my goal, I am contemplating March 1st to start integrating those early a. m. workouts once again. I will have to have tremendous self-discipline in order to do that, right now I cannot get in the right mind to do it.

The only matter I am somewhat concerned about, is my knee. Three months post surgery, it still gets inflamed, the pain is still there and there are a few or a lot of exercises to keep away from until who knows when. I am very apprehensive and doubtful about this whole ordeal that I don't want to push it more but at the same time I keep thinking that perhaps I need to force myself a little more?

In addition to that, I burned my calf the other day when I was icing it. I put the ice bag directly onto my skin and left it on for too long. This is not to be done again! I didn't notice the burn till yesterday and this morning while I showered, it is pretty bad and it looks awful! 

With this in hand, that was another big NO  for the photo shoot. 

It was most definitely NOT meant to be today. The right place and time have not yet approached. The right someone is awaiting but not quite ready just yet!

in another 10-12 weeks, I will have gotten closer to my physical goal so the timing is perfect!

Get fit or Die trying!