HYPOCRISY

HYPOCRISY
October 22, 2016


HYPOCRISY IS THE STATE OF PRETENDING TO HAVE BELIEFS, OPINIONS, VIRTUES, FEELINGS, QUALITIES, OR STANDARDS THAT THAT ONE DOES NOT ACTUALLY HAVE.
HYPOCRISY INVOLVES THE DECEPTION OF OTHERS AND THUS IS A LIE.

That's right, a false illusion of faith, spirituality, and transparency.
Since a while back, I've been perceiving the morbid intentions of particular acquaintances
who have disguised themselves as "spiritual."

I pray for this excruciating journey to be temporary. I pray for it to elapse soon, REAL soon!

A Crossfit Warrior

A Crossfit Warrior
I want to meet her!
October 19, 2016


This article was published on the Miami Herald and then on Yahoo News.
I came across it just a little while ago.

According to this article, Cindy Martinez lost three limbs to flesh-eating bacteria.

She is now training to become Crossfit warrior.

Warriors like Cindy Martinez always give me hope, strength and motivation.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/m/8176497d-4864-3aab-9b75-95e5a8801d1e/ss_veteran-who-lost-3-limbs-to.html

http://www.miamiherald.com/news/nation-world/national/article109243767.html

What a Writer Needs Part 3

What a Writer Needs Part 3

October 9, 2016

Two of my top tools to teach were: Grammar exercises:www.miguelmllop.com, and Advanced Composition for non-natives of English: http://eslbee.com. I was very disappointed when I found out that eslbee was discontinued. It was one of the best tools for my composition classes. That is where I found this “Why You Should Communicate Effectively.” That is exactly one of the Tops for Writers. 

Along with

What a Writer Needs Part 1

What a Writer Needs Part 2

AND

The 4 P's - My 4 Allies

Establishing and developing effective communication is important in order to be Heard and change your environment according to your own thoughts. No one will guess what you want or what you think if you don’t tell them, and nothing is going to change if you do not propose a change. The purpose of this essay is to discuss four important skills that will help you communicate effectively. Such skills are not to to be afraid of speaking, alaways defend what you want to say, express exactly what you mean to say, and listen while you are not speaking.

The first aspect to communicate effectively is NOT to be afraid of speaking. Anytime you need tos ay something, go ahead and do it. Most of the times people are afraid of speaking because they are not sure if it is the right thing to say and/or the right momento to say it. Be sure, say what you want tos ay, and DO NOT regret it. If you speak you will be Heard and taken into account. You are important so you need to be heard. There is one thing you should NOT DO somehow; DO NOT say something that will hurt somebody’s feelings. Unless that something has to be said inevitably, say it, but as softly and gently as you can. NEVER hurt anyone intentionally. Always think twice before saying something. You choose what to 

say, just be sure to say the right ting at the right time. If you do that, you won’t regret a thing.

Second, if you want to communicate effectively, defend what you say. Once you have said something you can never go backward; you must back it up. The worst thing that you can do when speaking is to hesitate. Hesitance means self-insecurity and this means weakness. The strength of your words will surely determine their effect on the listener. The way that you speak and the content of your speech tell a lot about yourself and your personality. A conversation allows speakers and listeners to get to know each other better. Besides people will only know what you say; they cannot go any further if you do not let them. It is only by means of intelligence, strength, and security that you will be able to change the world around you. And, it is also by means of intelligence, strength, and security that you will be heard and taken into account.

The third and main aspect of effective communication is to express exactly what you mean tos ay. Pick up the words that will express exactly what you are thinking.

A false illusion of happiness

A false illusion of happiness

Love vs. infatuation

October 8, 2016

By: Gina Yoryet Román

For some, having a lot of money is a symbol of happines. To others, outer physical beauty is laughther. Happiness will always be contingent upon age, gender and/or social class. For some women being happy means, to possess a nice body and an angellic face, to have a lot of attention from men, to travel or to never age, to be loved by everyone, to never bear the downsides of life throughout their jouney, to be loved by everyone, to never be subject of the many much dreaded yet uncontrollable hormonal changes, to only abide by the ups of life, to be successful, independent, to thrive, to achieve and encourage other women, to be healthy, to have peace of mind.

A great number of men lay out laughter as to be youthful, attractive, to own a very large and profitable business, to have a lot of money, to be surrounded by women and disposing of them once they are “fall out of love,” to never have to commit to any women, to always be fit and have an athletic complexion, to hop around the world, to be in good health, perhaps to be famous.

For teenagers, happiness means to remain forever young, to always be beautiful, attractive and youthful, to never become adults or to have responsibilities, to explore the world and not be told what to do, to feel invincible.

Among the top characterizations of happiness is to have everlasting youth and beauty, to have the “perfect” body, (for whatever that means), and to be wealthy for life. The majority of people all around the world are in the dark about this misstatement. By doing this they don’t only create the opposite; unhappiness, but they also attract more anxiety, sadness, low self-esteem, disordered thoughts and behavior when they search for it at no avail. What they are creating, is a false illusion of what real beauty and happiness are about. The most paradoxical point about the whole picture is that they allow themselves to be deceived. Once we get the object that promises joy, we realize that in the end, that particular “something” didn’t help us get to boundless joy.

What the cajoling mind makes us believe is the most authentic lie, apart from the abstract and unauthentic concept of democracy.

It’s happened to me, it’s happened to most, if not all of my friends, it’s happened to family members, and to many people I have encountered all along this walk of life. That’s why I wish for…

I don’t wish for anything anymore actually, like I told my sister this morning when we were talking on the phone. I just let go and pray for a healthy mind and a healthy body.

I don’t want to be either in love, or infatuated with happiness. I know what makes me happy, yet I am oblivious as to what entails whole happiness in me.

“Happiness comes when you believe in what you are doing, know what you are doing, and love what you are doing.”

Brian Tracy

My story, My book

My story, My book

Why I’ve been on an extended hiatus

October 7, 2016

By: Gina Yoryet Román

These words resonated very directly, intensely and clearly in my mind during my solitary stroll last Saturday and Sunday. I spent a whole two days with Me, Myself and I. My first and foremost reason was to unclutter my mind, to distance myself from certain toxic and demoralizing individuals that will do anything to sabotage one’s serenity because deep down they are very miserable, and last but not least, I wanted to pray and shake off the stranger within that has carved itself very deeply into me and won’t give up the ship. 

The stranger inside has got me in gridlock. I let it forsake who I am. In a moment of weakness I let myself be dominated by an intruder, an uninvited person, yet someone I have known all my life. The someone that can control me if I don't pray, stay hopeful and shield and nurture myself with a healthy environment. It is cynical to imply that this outsider has ravaged me from head to toe. It is very narcissistic to sit here and let my “inner” turmoil rob me from my peace, and hope for a “better” moment when I have let me be consumed by everything and everyone else.

Today when I went for another lone walk, I realized that what seems to be fractured inside of me, will get salvaged once I set my mind, heart and soul into it and bounce back. Through that restoration I will find my real objective. I also substantiated the palpability of every single event that took me here and my current circumstances. It all entails to nothing more than my feebleness.  Every unfavorable event has been linked to another; my lack of motivation to work out, the anxiety stirred by that, my unwillingness to control my unexplained cravings, the struggle with my weight, the state of uncertainty as for our future, the loss of Victoria Esperanza, a few aging issues. Outlining it all in a nutshell; Spiritual, emotional, personal, physical, professional, financial, setbacks.

I once said that at this given point in life, I could not allow myself to fail any of these aspects, yet, I have, not only one, but all of them. Me, Myself, and I, are standing at at a crossroad impaired of a clear vision of where to go and what to do next. I am unclear of where to go next, all I know is that I yearn for Gina Yoryet, the one with extensive body sculpting experience. The one who helps women lose weight and reshape their bodies. The one who lived in her own writerly world, the one who always sought writing as a therapy, the one with a strong mind and a resilient body. The one with an unyielding faith.

Today was an indicator to slowly start claiming who I am. Now is the time to stop forsaking me because the real me has revealed itself and me wants to be me again. Feel beautiful, be at peace and ease with myself, stand up for who I am, and claim my ABC’s. Keep in mind that there is always hope as long as the circumstances are within my control.

I will get there by writing and changing me and the world around me.

Because...

This is MY life…

MY story…

MY book…

I will NO longer let anyone else write it;

nor will I apologize for the edits I make

Steve Maraboli