Saturday, May 31, 2014

Entre amigas


Entre amigas
May 31st, 2014
By: Gina Yoryet Roman


El jueves fue uno de esos días tan largos que estuve a punto de cancelar la cena que tenía con dos amigas. Tuve que esperar casi tres horas porque mi última clase canceló. ¿Qué hago, cómo mato el tiempo? Voy a poner gasolina, voy a chismear un rato con la secretaria, termino de revisar un reporte médico corto. Al terminar todo eso, aún tuve una hora y media libre y pues prácticamente me arrojé de patas para arriba al sillón de la oficina, no a dormir, sólo a descansar mi abrumada mente y agotado cuerpo. La pobre señora de la limpieza no quiso entrar a limpiar a pesar de que le dije, "adelante, con confianza."

Por fin llegaron las 7:45 e inmediatamente me dirigí al restaurante, ¡Justo lo que necesitaba, una buena copa de vino tinto para aflojar y cooperar! ¡Ja, ja! Qué bueno que no cancelé  porque tuvimos una buena charla entre amigas. Qué agradable atardecer y pasar tiempo con dos amigas solteras, bueno una de ellas acaba de terminar con su novio hace una semana (espero que el hombre razone y le pida disculpas a mi querida amiga que tiene el corazón desgarrado), y yo pues ni hablar. A. D. D. el significado de estas siglas sólo las comparto con mis buenas amigas. 
Es algo que me agobia y no encuentro muchas respuestas, yo solo se lo dejo a un poder supremo y milagroso, lo único que me resta es orar por lo que no tengo control y que sea su voluntad. Como alguien dijo alguna vez, Dios no te trae a la gente que tú quieres, te da a la gente que necesitas para ayudarte, para lastimarte, para dejarte, para amarte y quererte y para  ayudarte a ser la persona que estás destinada a ser. 

Como siempre, tocamos brevemente el tema de lo complejo de las relaciones Las tres coincidimos que puede ser algo tan bello y sublime pero a la vez complicado. También mencionamos que posiblemente sea mejor ser unas despiadadas viejas cabronas hijas de nuestra madre porque no vale la pena ser buena onda. Sí, estamos de acuerdo que somos francas, quizá demasiado francas y tal vez intimidamos a muchas (por no decir muchos). Algo no encaja aquí y tenemos un gigantesco signo de interrogación imaginario, ¿Qué pasa? Somos demasiado independientes, no somos conformistas, muy a pesar de que la vida nos tiende muchas trampitas y nos tire y nos intimide temporalmente cuando se nos presenta dicha situación, le seguimos sin dar vuelta de hoja. Cierto, está cabrón pero camarón que se duerme, se lo lleva la corriente, desafortunadamente la vida no se detiene por ninguna razón. Entre amigas, princesas y guerreras, y mujeres adultas que somos, cuando la regamos pero grueso, tenemos más pantalones que un batallón de guerra junto, nos mordemos la lengua y pedimos disculpas. Nuestra gran decepción es que eso pasa por desapercebido y ni modo, como dice el dicho, “lo que sigue.” 

Entre amigas siempre es mejor sobrellevar los obstáculos que se nos presentan día a día. Las  hermanas y amigas son la píldora perfecta para alivianar la mente. Es cómo cuando tienes un dolor en alguna parte del cuerpo o cuando los mugres cólicos te ocasionan unos retorcijones bien machín, recurres al maravilloso diclofenaco o algún milagroso analgésico y tan sólo minutos después, el dolor se desvanece. De la misma forma las hermanas y amigas te ayudan a despejar tu mente, aliviar tu corazón y apaciguar tu alma.

Entre amigas la vida parece nada más que un breve y dulce instante, por eso ya no me importa la cantidad de amigas que tengo, ahora lo que me interesa, es la calidad de las verdaderas amigas en mi vida que puedo contar con los dedos de una mano. Por eso me siento muy afortunada y agradecida con Dios y con la vida que me ha regalado cuatro magnificas y encantadoras hermanas y muchas maravillosas amigas


True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him/her is a blessing.

Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together. – Woodrow T. Wilson

Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one. ― C.S. Lewis

A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. – William Shakespeare

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. – Elbert Hubbard

An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind. – Buddha

Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes. – Friedrich Nietzsche

I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff. – Jon Katz

Never leave a friend behind. Friends are all we have to get us through this life–and they are the only things from this world that we could hope to see in the next. – Dean Koontz

Friday, May 30, 2014

Life is not all rosy


Life is not all rosy 
May 30, 2014
By: Gina Yoryet Roman


I’ve been trying to sort out and accept a few unexpected changes and disappointments as of lately. Staying put to life’s blind alleys can be hard if we go through them alone. Sometimes I catch myself exaggerating and I whine that I ‘don’t’ have any friends. This entire month proved me wrong and rubbed the truth on my face. How? Showing me that I have a lot of friends who will always be there to support me

In a way I am a lot like men as every time I go through a particular downfall I automatically shut down and go M. I. A. for however long I deem necessary to come back to real life and feel normal again. This time I took a different approach and felt very blessed to reach out to my girlfriends that are fighting the same battles. All in all, I spent time with my friends Veronica, Berenice, Cecilia, Martita, Guillermina, Patricia, Rene, Kristen, Cynthia, and on top of that, I talked on the phone with my two lifetime best friends, Norma and Rosie and my best guy friend, Pedro. In a period of thirty, thirty one days, I did a recount of most of my good ‘ole friends and was glad that there are so many wonderful people for me when I am under the impression that life is not rosy. 

That’s why every day when I wake up, no matter what, I am grateful for all the blessings I’ve been endowed with, one of them is my friends, I’d be lost without my family and them. I was too caught up on me until I talked to my eighteen year old nephew just a little while ago after I read his alarming email sent to me last night. Last December when he had recently turned eighteen, I sat down with him and laid it all out to him the way it was after he failed some classes during his first semester in college. He approached me because his mother refused to open up as a punishment. 

True, I am dealing with temporary disappointment but I am well aware that I only have one choice. It is a lot simpler to take in life’s blows as we grow older but what about children and teenagers? How do you explain an eight year old girl that NOT winning her dance performance is one of endless opportunities to improve and shine in this world? How do you explain a teenager that his/her parents are going through divorce? 
How can you tell them that life is exactly about that but then you rise again because there is no other way out? 

Focusing on the issue that Dado put himself through was a circuit that directed me  outside of my bubble. I am trying to come up with a list of different ways to help him and ignite him to keep fighting when he’s facing disappointment and lack of motivation. Before I called him I came with a list of resolutions for him (for us to do because I am in this with him). 

Number one: Give his mother the news today when she takes him out to lunch. Otherwise, I will call her and break the news to him first thing tomorrow morning. 
Number two: Write a list of benefits he’s got there and balance them out.
Number three: Start working to come up with money to buy his place ticket since I can’t support him with that because he failed to comply with the agreement we made in December. 
Number four: Come up with a list of short and long term goals.
Number five: Start being more appreciative for all the benefits he’s been given and be kinder to his mother. 

I am praying to remain resilient and non-lenient in order to help my sister form a responsible and appreciative young man. I in any way intend to form a perfect man because perfection is not of this world. We all have our flaws but we are very good at hiding them and it always takes another someone to point them out. Our sole duty is to work with them and strive to be better people. 

That's why first and foremost, I reiterated to him that I love him and I believe in him because he is a very smart young man but he has to understand that there’s sacrifice concealed behind anything we want to achieve. There’s no such thing as a free lunch, meaning that here he will have to work twice as hard and make less money. Sometimes we learn the hard way and now is his turn. 

It is a tough challenge but I am ready to face it as long as I can be of benefit and a good influence to him. Before anything, I will always believe in him because he has a very promising and bring future



Monday, May 26, 2014

Maturity

MATURITY
May 26, 2014

Maturity is
the ability to control anger, and settle differences without violence or
destruction.
Maturity is patience, the willingness to give up immediate pleasure in favor of the long-term gain.
Maturity is perseverance, sweating out a project despite setbacks.
Maturity is unselfishness, responding to the needs of others.
Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and disappointment without becoming
bitter.
Maturity is humility. A mature person is able to say, “I was wrong”. And when he
is proved right, he does not have to say, “I told you so.”
Maturity means dependability, integrity, keeping one’s word.
Maturity is the ability to live in peace with things we cannot change.

SELF-RENUNCIATION
We must learn to give up not only our wrongs
but even our rights. It is a little thing that
we should turn from sin. If we are to follow Christ and His consecration, we must turn also from things that are not sinful, and learn the greatest lesson of self -
renunciation, even in rightful things.
There are many things which are not wrong for you to keep and hold as your own, but which, if kept, bring loss to Christ and even greater loss to you.
Abraham gave up his Isaac and received him back with a new touch of love–as God’s
Isaac now. We shall findthat most of the lives that count much for God had somewhere in them a great renunciation, where the dearest idol was laid upon Moriah’s altar, and from that hour there was new fruit and new power.
(Gen. 22:2)
A. B. Simpson

Saturday, May 24, 2014

With age comes wisdom

With age comes wisdom
May 23rd, 2014
By: Gina Yoryet Roman


With age comes wisdom is a very legitimate verdict. Sometimes when I reminiscence about all the silly actions and irresponsible decisions I made when I was younger I laugh about it and tell my mother or sisters that I would never do such things again. As I get older I try not to act irresponsibly because I don’t want the crude revelation of the capricious woman to arise. During our youth we all want to explore, experience and learn, once we reach a certain age, we have to be mature and wise enough to differentiate right from wrong.

Sadly not every person does, I’ve met people who never grow out of drugs, promiscuity, laziness, irresponsibility, immaturity, wrong decision making or negative actions. For example, the title of this post came about a little while ago when I was cleaning my closet and getting rid of a lot of clothes I don’t wear anymore to donate it to charity or to someone in higher need than myself. I ran into my favorite mini, I mean, really MINI skirts (and tried it on) in which I’d proudly flaunt my athletic legs on a few years back. Feeling very vulnerable, I immediately took it off because it took me back to five, six years ago when I went through an anxiety and sadness bout.

At that time I worked as a demo girl and model at expos, body painting shows, Muay Thai fights and other sporting events. All of a sudden one day all that superficiality and mundanity hit me at once and I decided to withdraw from it all because at the end of the day when I came home, I felt empty and deep down that wasn't me. Even when the makeup artists did my makeup I always told them to keep it very low key but all I got in return where awkward glares. I like makeup, but anything in excess has always made me feel susceptible and indefensible to the world. I prefer a low profile because I am not giving away the key to my heart and soul to the entire universe.

Remarkably that mini skirt brought many reflections of my life then and now. Although I was shortly invaded with those negative feelings when it all came back to me, I felt liberated and I told myself, “it’s ok, you’ve been there, done that, you are happy with the wise woman you’ve become.” Without delay right after those comforting words, I ran to my computer to release it all in writing.

I am glad that I’ve grown out of mini skirts, irresponsibility, immaturity and wrong decision making, drugs, promiscuity and laziness have never been on my plate. I pride myself to have outgrown outer beauty over inner beauty, now I am more about inner beauty over outer beauty. I am not perfect, I am human, therefore I will always make mistakes but every day gives me the opportunity to learn from my own mistakes and to grow wiser as I get older.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Victoria Esperanza, another one of my victories

Victoria Esperanza
Another one of my victories
May 20, 2014


Ten years ago I was lost, bewildered, discouraged, dismayed and intimidated about the bleak future lying ahead. 

Shortly after, I was forced to overturn all those negative emotions, discovered all my concealed skills and decided to use them to my favor and to impact the life of others.

I’ve accomplished more than ever in life, increased my knowledge like never before and built a very powerful mind. Ten years ago exactly on May of 2004, I told two people that I wanted to write a book but I never planned it, I was at a loss because I was so young to define my existence. Little did I know that my  childhood dream turned into a passion, would later divert into my reality. 

Today, exactly ten years later, my heart is at ease and peace professionally wise. In despite of my inner insecurities, the bleakness of my future no longer haunts me. I know that I can always defy life spiritually, emotionally, personally, professionally, financially and physically and I will prevail.Overall, there's hope deep down. I know that when tomorrow looks at me right in the eye, it will be a better day, there's hope that anything that is meant to be, it will happen at its given time and place without forcing anything. Whether it is spiritual, emotional, personal, professional, financial or physical. All  there is for me to do, is wait patiently with an open heart and let it happen, pray with all my strength and have faith. 


“To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.” –G.K. Chesterson


“A lesson for all of us is that for every loss, there is victory, for every sadness, there is joy, and when you think you’ve lost everything, there is hope.” ―Geraldine Solon

“Savor life: don’t just breathe it in; exhale the moment to intake the next.” -KC Rhoads
Hope never abandons you, you abandon it.” -George Weinberg

“The birds of hope are everywhere, listen to them sing.” -Terri Guillemets

“Hope is like a road in the country; there was never a road, but when many people walk on it, the road comes into existence.”  -Lin Yutang

“Hope itself is a species of happiness, and, perhaps, the chief happiness which this world affords; but, like all other pleasures immoderately enjoyed, the excesses of hope must be expiated by pain.”  -Samuel Johnson

Hope is that thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops… at all.”  -Emily Dickinson

“Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come.”  -Anne Lamott

“We always kept in our hearts the most noble, beautiful feeling that sets human beings apart: hope.” ―Manel Loureiro


“Without hope, there is no despair. There is only meaningless suffering.” –D. Morgenstern

“For most of my life I have thought of grace as a hope of a bright tomorrow in spite of the darkness of today–and this is true. In this way we are all like Pamela, walking a road to grace–hoping for mercy. What we fail to realize is that grace is more than our destination, it is the journey itself, manifested in each breath and with each step we take. Grace surrounds us, whirls about us like the wind, falls on us like rain. Grace sustains us on our journeys, no matter how perilous they may be and, make no mistake, they are all perilous. We need not hope for grace, we merely need to open our eyes to its abundance. Grace is all around us, not just in the hopeful future but in the miracle of now.” ―Richard Paul Evans

“Because now that it’s finally morning, the shadows are beginning to fade, the shadows that have been covering my mind and my soul. Now that they’re gone, I can almost start to see the way, and it’s different from the one they’d convinced me was all I could have.” -Vixen Phillips
“Hope and reality lie in inverse proportions.” ―Jodi Picoult

“The hope you feel when you are in love is not necessarily for anything in particular. Love brings something inside you to life. Perhaps it is just the full dimensionality of your own capacity to feel that returns. In this state you think no impediment can be large enough to interrupt your passion. The feeling spills beyond the object of your love to color the whole world. The mood is not unlike the mood of revolutionaries in the first blush of victory, at the dawn of hope. Anything seems possible. And in the event of failure, it will be this taste of possibility that makes disillusion bitter.” ―Susan Griffin

When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn. –Harriet Beecher Stowe

“If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.” –Mary Pickford

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” –Thomas Edison

“Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that so it goes on flying anyway.” –Mary Kay Ash

“There is neither good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” –William Shakespeare
“Only in the darkness can you see the stars.” –Martin Luther King Jr.

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” –Barack Obama

“We need never be hopeless because we can never be irreparably broken.” –John Green 

Sunday, May 18, 2014

Un sueño convertido en pasión, una pasión desviada a una realidad

A dream turned into a passion,
a passion diverted to reality
May 18, 2014
By: Gina Yoryet Roman

Un sueño convertido en pasión, una pasión desviada a una realidad

June 27 will be the day to publish ‘Rules and Tools that Build Successful Women, How to Find Balance’ e-book in which I am co-author. I remember very vividly exactly ten years ago on May 2004 when I told a two or three very close people that I wanted to write a book. “I want to write a book,” I said only because I loved expressing myself through words but I was very distant from it at that time. I only said it but I never put a time frame to it, neither did I plan or form it and on top of that, I was very clueless about what in the world I’d write about. Sometimes I thought about writing my biography but there are many stages in my life that I would not want to re-visit because I don’t want to stir particular emotions.

Barely in 2009 I created a very dull blog in which I only posted ten times throughout the year. In 2010 I made some progress but it was still insufficient according to my standards. In 2011 I made a somewhat bigger effort and increased the number of posts but I was still not content about it. Towards the end of 2011, I had a face-off with myself and after some serious self talk, I  was ready and felt propelled to take a higher step to double those prior numbers. I made it happen just like I do when I am determined. It may take me a while or a lot longer than it takes some people to get things done, but I eventually make it happen. In 2013 I was very fulfilled with my number of posts.

I don’t make money to write but I devote some time to it because it’s always been an escape from the cajoling circle of life. That’s why I didn’t necessarily made it a goal to write a book even when I knew it was/is one of my greatest loves and rules to help me find balance. Even last year when Self Growth invited me to be guest writer for their online magazine and to be contributing author for their book, ‘101 Ways to Make Yourself more Marketable,’ I didn’t feel ready nor did I believe that it would eventually happen, much sooner than expected.

Last year I redesigned my blog and geared it towards all of my passions and rules to find symmetry. Therefore, at the beginning of this year I thought about re-vamping it to attract more traffic. Five months ago, I was still unbeknownst as to how close my childhood dream that turned into a passion as an adolescent, would be diverted into reality real soon. Mid February came and after some serious consideration, I finally became a member of the International Women’s Leadership Association which was the milestone that would lead me to this dream come true. Within two weeks or less since I became a member, I learned about this project and everything else is history. On Wednesday when I turned in my chapter, at last it dawned on me that without thinking about it or planning it, it happened. Once I told myself like Ayn Rand implied, not only do I want it real, I want to share my glories and victories with someone else who wants it as much as I do. Otherwise what is the point of life?

“I want to see, real, living, and in the hours of my own days, that glory I create as an illusion. I want it real. I want to know that there is someone, somewhere, who wants it, too. Or else what is the use of seeing it, and working, and burning oneself for an impossible vision? A spirit, too, needs fuel. It can run dry.”

Ayn Rand

I am not feeling the zeal fully yet, perhaps on June 27 when I see the finalized published product. Until then I will let it fully sink in. Now I’ve witnessed that all our dreams can become a passion and we can turn that passion into reality if we really want them.

Saturday, May 17, 2014

This is your life

This is your life
May 17, 2014

One of my students showed me a nice thoughtful poster yesterday.
I couldn’t get a picture of it but I checked out the website and read these
mind opening words.

THIS IS YOUR LIFE.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE,
AND DO IT OFTEN.
IF YOU DON´T LIKE SOMETHING, CHANGE IT.
IF YOU DON´T LIKE YOUR JOB, QUIT.
IF YOU DON´T HAVE ENOUGH TIME, STOP WATCHING TV.
IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE, STOP;
THEY WILL BE WAITING FOR YOU WHEN YOU
START DOING THINGS YOU LOVE.
STOP OVER ANALYZING,
LIFE IS SIMPLE.
ALL EMOTIONS ARE BEAUTIFUL.
WHEN YOU EAT,
APPRECIATE EVERY LAST BITE.
OPEN YOUR MIND, ARMS AND HEART TO NEW THINGS
AND PEOPLE, WE ARE UNITED IN OUR DIFFERENCES.
ASK THE NEXT PERSON YOU SEE WHAT THEIR PASSION IS,
AND SHARE YOUR INSPIRING DREAM WITH THEM.
TRAVEL OFTEN;
SOME OPPORTUNITIES ONLY COME ONCE, SEIZE THEM.
GETTING LOST WILL HELP YOU FIND YOURSELF.
LIFE IS ABOUT PEOPLE YOU MEET, AND
THE THINGS YOU CREATE WITH THEM.
SO GO OUT AND START CREATING.
LIFE IS SHORT.
LIVE YOUR DREAM
AND SHARE YOUR PASSION.


THE HOLSTEE MANIFESTO
WRITTEN BY DAVE, MIKE AND FABIAN
WWW.HOLSTEE.COM/MANIFESTO

Friday, May 16, 2014

Love is manifested in different ways

Love is manifested in different ways
May 16, 2014
By: Gina Yoryet Roman


Very often I take a few minutes to reflect about life and its deceiving mysteries. Today I theorized about the amazing endowment and uniqueness of creation. I don’t have children yet but I couldn’t avoid rationalizing and resonating with the feeling of it and channeling love through that formulation. I witnessed the treasured price of developing something and bringing it to life. In the last couple of weeks, one of my childhood dreams and greatest loves that turned into a passion as an adult, was finally diverted into reality... I will discuss this in more depth perhaps later this weekend.

My love for one of my passions was manifested through that accomplishment. In like manner, my life is dictated by my loves: Spirituality, family, work and business ethics, health and fitness, charity work, reading, playing with words, reflecting and embracing the simplicity of life.

In the last two days I’ve been infatuated with love itself (and staying hopeful that my life time partner, the man who will accept me for who I am with all my flaws is getting closer), but in particular, my love for work and business ethics which is very self-fulfilling and joyful. I’ve told a few people that it took me a long time to find a way to use my skills and knowledge and define how to benefit myself as well as others.

I don’t see myself doing anything other than the combination of duties I’ve been doing for the last ten years. Why? For the mere fact that it’s helped me grow professionally, acquire more knowledge, strengthen my self confidence meet people from all walks of life but overall, share experiences and build very valuable friendships. Just when I feel abandoned, there is always someone who calls, texts or emails me to say hello and to know how I am doing.

I have to admit that I am a very fortunate woman because I got a lot of ‘I love you’s’ in the last couple of days.
For example, as of last Friday I’ve reencountered many friends I had not seen in a while. Exactly  a week ago I had late lunch with my friend Bere. After we met, I sent her a message thanking her for the nice girl talk we had and her reply was, ‘te quiero mucho.’ Later that day I met my friend Ceci who gave me a hug and told me the same thing, ‘te quiero mucho amiga.’

On Wednesday I was taken aback by one of my clients who gave me a resplendent purple chocolate basket for Teacher’s Day when I went to her house. That very thoughtful deed made me feel appreciated. On Thursday, May 15, Teacher’s Day, I got another call from another client and good friend of mine who I haven’t seen in a while. She called to wish me a happy Teacher’s Day and said to me, ‘Felicidades, te quiero mucho, te mando un fuerte abrazo.’ That call was followed by a couple of unexpected but kind text messages from other students.

When I arrived to class, my students surprised me with another splendid chocolate filled basket with an embellishing red ribbon backed by a warm hug from each one of them. That was very sweet!  After class I went to Starbucks to have an iced tea with my three female students; Claudia, Erika and Jeannine who I now consider good friends because we’ve shared so much since August of last year when we started working together.

A good-humored girly chat and the way my students manifested their love and affection towards me, were the best subsidy to wrap up my day. It sure made up for all those times when I’ve felt unappreciated!

The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.
William A. Ward

Thursday, May 15, 2014

A superior teacher

A superior teacher
May 15, 2014
Teacher's Day

“Preferiré siempre a los que sueñan… aunque se equivoquen; 
a los que esperan… aunque a veces fallen sus esperanzas… 
a los que apuestan por la utopía… aunque luego se quedan a en el camino. 
Apuesto por los que confían en que el mundo puede cambiar, y debe cambiar.”
José Luís Martín Descalzo
A superior teacher doesn't teach.
A superior teacher shares his knowledge and instills and transmits his value of wisdom to others.
 
T errific
E nergetic
A ble
Cheerful
H hard working
E nthusiastic
R emarkable

William A. Ward

A teacher is a compass that activates the magnets of curiosity, knowledge, and wisdom in the pupils. 
Ever Garrison

I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think. 
Socrates

What sculpture is to a block of marble, education is to a human soul. 
Joseph Addison

Education breeds confidence. Confidence breeds hope. Hope breeds peace. 
Confucius

If someone is going down the wrong road, he doesn’t need motivation to speed him up. What he needs is education to turn him around. 
Jim Rohn

Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.   
Benjamin Franklin 

Education is not preparation for life; education is life itself. 
John Dewey
 

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

La clave de la armonía

La clave de la armonía
May 13, 2014


El amor, la humildad y la oración resuelven todos los problemas.
El amor no repara en quién tiene la razón y quién está equivocado.
El amor procura brindar ternura, sanar, entregarse.
El amor engendra más amor, de tal forma que el dador
se convierte también en receptor.

La humildad tampoco repara en quién tiene la razón y quién está en un error;
solo le interesa la reconciliación. La humildad busca el sitio menos exaltado
y desde allí procura prestar asistencia. No se preocupa por sus propias necesidades.

La oración es el secreto para acceder a recursos sobrenaturales.
Aunque las plegarias que hacemos por nosotros mismos son buenas,
las que elevamos por los demás son resultan todavía mejores, pues son una
expresión de amor y de interés. Y a mi me agrada bendecir a quienes aman.

EL AMOR, LA HUMILDAD Y LA ORACIÓN: JUNTOS CONSTITUYEN LA CLAVE PARA ARMONIZAR CUALQUIER RELACIÓN.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Lessons learned from a very strong woman

Lessons learned from
a very strong woman
May 11, 2014
By: Gina Yoryet Roman


On Friday night I called a couple of places to make a reservation for late lunch on May 10, at no avail. I should’ve known that a lot of the most popular restaurants are packed because of Mother’s Day. Next year if that symbolic woman and I are together, I will most definitely make a reservation at an elegant restaurant for the two of us to dine, chat and for us to talk about us then and now.

Yesterday,  May 10th, though we didn’t go to La Pasta, the place I’d chosen to take my procreator, we spent a great part of the day together and I found it very solemn because we dined, chatted and I was able to reminiscence about my childhood when she shared many stories with me.

I love hearing those anecdotes but I mostly like all the sayings she used to tell my siblings and I when we were much younger:

‘Sabe más el diablo por viejo que por diablo.’ - The Devil is Wise, because of his age, and it doesn't matter who is he, but his experiences. Meaning that the older you are, the more knowledge you have gained.
‘Si no quieres ver visiones, no andes de noche.’ If you don’t want problems, don’t look for them.
‘Ser pendejo cuesta.’ - You pay a high price when you make mistakes.

I don’t know how she could handle eight children and the five girls were more than a handful. Poor mother! I’ve apologized a few times about all our teenage insensitivity. I try to be more understanding now that I am older but I still don’t know what it’s like to deal with children, I hope I have the opportunity one day soon, and only then I will really know!

That’s why her lessons and principles are the most useful in my life and since I highly admire this special woman, I’ve done my best to be led by those principles under any circumstances.

Honesty: Don’t ever steal, screw anyone out or take advantage of them because all that bad karma can come back to you.

Loyalty: One day, when you are in a partnership, whether business, friendship, dating, marriage, remain loyal no matter what.

Strength: Understand that you will be bent temporarily through ill-fated times but you can and you will bounce right back. Whatever doesn't kill you, will make you stronger, that’s why never give room for weeping.

Respect: Always treat people from all walks of life with respect, the way you like to be treated.

These principles are very meaningful and all my siblings and I, highly praise and live by them.  When I talk to one of my brothers or sisters on the phone, we sometimes discuss how valuable and profitable that’s been for our spiritual and emotional capital even when some of us have been hurt and betrayed.

True, those betrayals have been painful temporarily but in the end, they were another learning experience that made us more resistant which means that we won’t retaliate by playing the same game. We've instead forgiven, learned and let go. When I finally find the man I am destined to share my life with, my devotion to him will be based upon us growing and learning together as a whole, not on someone else’s falsehoods because I want the best for us, that’s why I will always pray for his spiritual, personal, emotional, physical, professional and financial well being.


So, THANK YOU MOM!

Friday, May 9, 2014

Eres

You are
Café Tacuba
May 9, 2014





ERES 
Eres,

lo que mas quiero en este mundo eso eres,

mi pensamiento mas profundo también eres,

tan solo dime lo que es 
que aquí me tienes.

Eres,


cuando despierto lo primero eso eres,

lo que a mi día le hace falta si no vienes,

lo único preciosa que en mi mente habita hoy.

Que mas puedo decirte, 


tal vez puedo mentirte sin razón,

pero lo que hoy siento, 

es que sin ti estoy muerto pues eres....
...
lo que mas quiero en este mundo eso eres.


Eres, 


el tiempo que comparto eso eres,

lo que la gente promete cuando se quiere,

mi salvación, mi esperanza y mi fe.


Soy, 


el que quererte quiere como novia soy,

el que te llevaría el sustento día a día día, día,

el que por ti daría la vida ese soy.



aquí estoy a tu lado, 

y espero aquí sentado hasta el final,

no te has imaginado,


lo que por ti he esperado pues eres
...
....lo que yo amo en este mundo eso eres

...
Cada minuto en lo que pienso eso eres...


Lo que mas cuido en este mundo eso eres.....

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

A man must be big enough to...

A man must be big enough to...
May 6, 2014
By: Gina Yoryet Roman


Every now and again I clean up my inbox to get rid of all unwanted and unnecessary messages and just now I came across this quote (by John C. Maxwell, one of my favorite motivational speakers and writers) I emailed myself on February 15, 2013.

“A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.”

This quote has a very down-reaching interpretation that describes my current situation, which I won’t get into details. Some people don´t mind being an open book, unlike myself. As expressive as I always am, having a blog and posting about reflexions and experiences is more than what I may be able to take sometimes.

Just a few minutes ago when I was driving home, I thought about this somewhat precise scenario with someone significant in my life. I am human, (I am not concealing myself on that gospel) so I tend to make mistakes in many shapes and forms. I, just like everyone else, can express our feelings and the people surrounding us might manifest our message in a totally different way, or we may not be able to find the right words to express what we want to say at the right time and place to the right someone. It is part of being human to go through ups and downs, but only those who are truly destined to be by your side forever, will teach and help you grow as a person. Another lesson I’ve learned, is that experiences like the one I am undergoing right now, is that nobody likes it when someone else points out their flaws no matter how politely it is done.

BUT! On a good account, those mere imperfections are what make us grow towards better persons. And after all, only time can tell who will be by your side till the end of time. I mean, God doesn’t give you the people you want, he gives you the people you need. To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you the person you were meant to be.

And like John C. Maxwell said without mistake, I am big enough to admit that I shouldn’t have said some things, I will most definitely be smart enough to profit from it , meaning that if I don’t know what to do in the future, I will know what NOT to do, and most importantly, I am emotionally strong to correct those flaws because I am being true to myself...


John C. Maxwell
You reap what you saw