A
false illusion of happiness
Love
vs. infatuation
October
8, 2016
By:
Gina Yoryet Román
For
some, having a lot of money is a symbol of happines. To others, outer physical
beauty is laughther. Happiness will always be contingent upon age, gender
and/or social class. For some women being happy means, to possess a nice body
and an angellic face, to have a lot of attention from men, to travel or to
never age, to be loved by everyone, to never bear the downsides of life
throughout their jouney, to be loved by everyone, to never be subject of the
many much dreaded yet uncontrollable hormonal changes, to only abide by the ups
of life, to be successful, independent, to thrive, to achieve and encourage
other women, to be healthy, to have peace of mind.
A
great number of men lay out laughter as to be youthful, attractive, to own a
very large and profitable business, to have a lot of money, to be surrounded by
women and disposing of them once they are “fall out of love,” to never have to
commit to any women, to always be fit and have an athletic complexion, to hop
around the world, to be in good health, perhaps to be famous.
For
teenagers, happiness means to remain forever young, to always be beautiful,
attractive and youthful, to never become adults or to have responsibilities, to
explore the world and not be told what to do, to feel invincible.
Among
the top characterizations of happiness is to have everlasting youth and beauty,
to have the “perfect” body, (for whatever that means), and to be wealthy for
life. The majority of people all around the world are in the dark about this
misstatement. By doing this they don’t only create the opposite; unhappiness,
but they also attract more anxiety, sadness, low self-esteem, disordered
thoughts and behavior when they search for it at no avail. What they are
creating, is a false illusion of what real beauty and happiness are about. The
most paradoxical point about the whole picture is that they allow themselves to
be deceived. Once we get the object that promises joy, we realize that in the
end, that particular “something” didn’t help us get to boundless joy.
What
the cajoling mind makes us believe is the most authentic lie, apart from the
abstract and unauthentic concept of democracy.
It’s
happened to me, it’s happened to most, if not all of my friends, it’s happened
to family members, and to many people I have encountered all along this walk of
life. That’s why I wish for…
I
don’t wish for anything anymore actually, like I told my sister this morning
when we were talking on the phone. I just let go and pray for a healthy mind and a healthy body.
I
don’t want to be either in love, or infatuated with happiness. I know what
makes me happy, yet I am oblivious as to what entails whole happiness in me.
“Happiness comes when you believe in what you
are doing, know what you are doing, and love what you are doing.”
Brian Tracy
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