Tuesday, April 5, 2016

Evolution or lust?


April 5, 2016
By: Gina Yoryet Roman

One of my students told me about this video about the “evolution “ of the swimsuit last year. I never took the time to watch it, not because of lack of interest, but because I just never got around to it. Since then, it’s been in my mind. After reading the text, which was a lot quicker than watching the video, I am in total conformity with Jessica Ray (an American actress, bathing suit designer, and writer of ‘Decent Exposure.’).

The way a small piece of fabric – a bathing suit started and the twist that men and women have given it, is vile. The direction this garment has undergone, the morbid way men objectify women, and the way women embrace that type of treatment is more than what some individuals could ever fathom. Our society has gone to a point where it is ok to utilize women as insignificant objects and ignite sexuality. Younger women are constantly being pressured to grow up too fast. To be attractive, sexy, sensual, to please a man’s desire through the type of clothes they use. Through the out of proportion makeup on their face and the alterations on their body – plastic surgeries.

I hope that Jessica Ray is able to convey her message and make women aware not only all through the U. S., but around the world. We are in desperate need of it.

I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.
Timothy 2:9-10

Analyst at the National Geographic concluded the bikinis really do inspire man to see women as objects as something to be used rather than someone to connect with. So, it seems that wearing a bikini does give a woman power, the power to shutdown a man’s ability to see her as a person, but rather as an object

Sadly, many women don’t leave anything to the imagination

[Jessica Rey] Source: LYBIO.net

I’m sure you’ve all heard that song before and I apologize if it gets stuck in anyone’s head for the rest of the day. But, I am wondering, if you’ve ever really listened to the lyrics, because until a couple of weeks ago, I’d never really listened to them before, so I’d like to review some of them with you. The first verse goes, [Itsy Bitsy Teenie Weenie Yellow Polka Dot Bikini]

She was afraid to come out of the locker
She was as nervous as she could be
She was afraid to come out of the locker
She was afraid that somebody would see


The song continues, with her being afraid to come out in the open, so she hides in her blanket, and then, she was afraid to come out of the water, so she starts to turn blue. Why was this woman, so afraid? This song was released in 1960, fourteen years after the bikini was invented in France. French engineer, Louis Reard invented the bikini, he worked in his mother’s lingerie shop and he named it after the site of the atomic bomb testing that year Bikini Atoll.

[Jessica Rey] Source: LYBIO.net
He thought that the publics’ reaction would be like an atomic bomb explosion. And, he was right. His design was based on exposing the belly button for the first time. And he said, it wasn’t the true bikini unless it could be pulled through a wedding ring. It was so scandalous that no French model would wear it. So he had to hire a stripper to debut his bikini.


Before Reard invented the bikini women wore one piece swimsuits, like this, or if they were two piece swimsuits, they were still very modest, exposed very little midriff and always cover the belly button. Before that, at the turn of the century women wore this voluminous bathing costumes, and they use things called bath machines, which were like a 6x6x6 wooden or canvas hut on wheels, the women would get inside of the bathing machine in her cloths, and then she would change into her bathing costume. And horses or sometimes people would drag the bathing machine down to the shoreline, and then women would get straight into the water. So that no one would see here in her bathing costume.

We have certainly come a long way, since then from practically wearing a house of 36 square feet to wearing about 36 square inches of fabric. You go to the beach today and it seems like everyone is wearing a bikini, but it was not an instant hit in the United States. It was seen as a suspect garment favored by licentious Mediterranean types.

In 1957, Modern Girl magazine said, “it was hardly necessary to waste words on the so called bikini, because no girl with the tact or decency would ever wear such a thing. And one writer described the bikini as a two-piece bathing suits that revealed everything about a girl expect her mothers’ maiden name. Guards at the beach would measure bathing suits and women wearing bikinis were sure to get kicked off of the beach.

[Jessica Rey] Source: LYBIO.net
So, it’s no wonder that the girl on the song was afraid to come out of the water.

With 1960s however, came the sexual revolution and the women’s movement and the rising popularity of the bikini. Soon no one was afraid to wear one. And in 1965, a women told Time magazine, that it was almost square not to. Last year alone annual spending on the bikini totaled $8 billion. The popularity of the bikini has been attributed to the power of women, not the power of fashion. And a New York Times reporter called the bikini, the millennial equivalent of the power suit.

So I’d like to take a couple of minutes to examine this so-called power that wearing the bikini brings. 

A few years ago, male college students at Princeton University participated in studies of how the male brain reacts to seeing people in different amounts of clothing. Brain scans revealed that when men are shown pictures of scantily-clad women, the region of the brain associated with tools, such as screwdrivers and hammers lit up.

Some men showed zero brain activity in the medial prefrontal cortex, which is the part of the brain that lights up when one ponders another person’s thoughts, feelings, and intentions. Researchers found that shocking, because they almost never see this part of the brain shutdown in this way. 

[Jessica Rey] Source: LYBIO.net

And a Princeton professor said, “It is as if they’re reacting to these women as if they’re not fully human. It’s consistent with the idea that they are responding to these photographs, as if they were responding to objects, not people. 


In a separate Princeton study, when men viewed images of women in bikinis, they often associated with first person action verbs such as: “I push”, “I grab”, “I handle”. But when they saw images of women dressed modestly, they associated them with third person action verbs, such as “she pushes”, “she grabs”.

Analyst at the National Geographic concluded the bikinis really do inspire man to see women as objects as something to be used rather than someone to connect with. So, it seems that wearing a bikini does give a woman power, the power to shutdown a man’s ability to see her as a person, but rather as an object. 

This is surely not the kind of power that women were searching for, the power to be treated as an equal to be seen as in control and to be taken seriously. It seems that the kind of power they are searching for is more attainable, when they dress modestly. But now comes the problem of modesty.

The very word, modesty is often met with such disdain especially among the younger high school crowd. I remember speaking to a group of teenagers in New York and when I mentioned modesty, this girl yelled from the back, “What am I supposed to dress like then, a grandma? And I was scared, but I have to admit, I thought the same thing when I first learned about modesty. I thought it meant, “I had to be frumpy and dumpy and out of fashion”. And, I imagine myself wearing dresses like this, sitting alone in my living room, never going on another date, ever again and never getting married, and I was particularly frustrated when shopping for a swimsuit, when I decided not to wear bikinis anymore, because all I could find were things that my grandmother would actually wear.

[Jessica Rey] Source: LYBIO.net

Instead of being discouraged I took matters into my own hands and I designed my own swimsuit, and the first time I wore it, a few girls asked, where I got it, and the second time a few more and so on and so forth. So, I decided to put my MBA to use, which made my parents so happy, and just start my own swimsuit company. 


My goal is to disapprove the age-old notion, that when it comes to swimsuits, less is more and that you can dress modestly without sacrificing fashion.
My inspiration for my swimsuit line is Audrey Hepburn, who is timeless and classy and who happened to have dressed very modestly. I don’t think people would think of Audrey Hepburn and think frumpy and dumpy and out of fashion. 

These are some of my designs and my tag line is “Who says it has to be itsy bitsy?” Well to answer the question, if you look at today’s society everyone, everyone says, “It has to be itsy bitsy”, fashion designers, the media, and let’s face it sometimes parents.
Little girls would not be running around in sexy underwear and skimpy bikinis, if it weren’t for their parents buying them for them. 

I believe that the woman was afraid to come out of the water, because she had a natural sense of modesty about her. That has been stripped away by today’s culture. And, we need to bring it back. 

[Jessica Rey] Source: LYBIO.net

I have dedicated a lot of my time, I travel all over the country speaking to girls about this issue. I’ve just written a book called ‘Decent Exposure’ about it.

And, we need to teach girls that modesty isn’t about covering up our bodies because they’re bad, modesty isn’t about hiding ourselves, it’s about revealing our dignity.
[Jessica Rey] Source: LYBIO.net

We were made beautiful in his image and likeness, so the question I’d like to leave you with is, how will you use your beauty? Thank you.


Sunday, April 3, 2016

Cultivo una Rosa Blanca


Cultivo una Rosa Blanca
3 de abril de 2016

Cultivo una rosa blanca
en junio como en enero
para el amigo sincero
que me da su mano franca.

Y para el cruel que me arranca
el corazón con que vivo,
cardo ni ortiga cultivo;
cultivo la rosa blanca.

Thursday, March 24, 2016

Golden Rules

Golden Rules
The list we SHOULD ALL carry around
March 24, 2016

Throwback Thursday.

When I was in my early twenties, I was hired as an Office Manager who handled a lot more than what I’d ever fathomed at that age. Among one of the many duties I was responsible of, I had to come up with a motivational newsletter for the over 350 staff I led for about two years. I don’t recall how many newsletters I wrote during my stay at that company, but the one that I clearly visualize on a day-to-day basis, is part of this one published on September 2002.  I didn’t write this originally nor do I remember how I got a hold of it. I do recollect adding more to it since I am always so enthused with one of my games – a game of words - writing…

The most destructive habit – Worry
The greatest joy – Giving
The greatest loss – Loss of self-respect
The most satisfying work – Helping others
The ugliest personality trait – Selfishness
The most endangered species – Dedicated leaders
Our greatest natural resource – Our youth
The greatest “shot in the arm” – Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome – Fear
The most effective sleeping pill – Peace of mind
The most crippling failure disease – Excuses
The most powerful force in the universe – Love
The most dangerous pariah – A gossiper
The world’s most incredible computer – The brain
The worst thing to be without – Hope
The deadliest weapon – The tongue
The two most powerful–filled words – “I can!”
The greatest asset – Faith
The most worthless emotion – Self–pity
The most beautiful attire – A SMILE!
The most prized possession – Integrity
The most powerful channel of communication – Prayer
The most contagious spirit – Enthusiasm
The greatest force in the universe – Conviction
The most rewarding trait – Honesty
The greatest support – Family
The greatest achievement – Defeating your toughest opponent – “YOU!”

Friday, March 4, 2016

El Arte de la Restauración

Kintsukuroi
El Arte de la Restauración
4 de marzo de 2016
Autora: Gina Yoryet Román
Artículo escrito originalmente el
21 de febrero de 2016


Estos tiempos al acercarse semana santa, siempre son una reminiscencia para tratar de trazar mis fallas y luchar contra mi rival más fuerte – Yo   con el fin de mejorarlas. Como ser humano que fracasa día a día muchas veces siento que no soy merecedora de otra oportunidad de Dios y de nuestra madre del universo – la Virgen María. Más no debo dejar que mi mente se inunde de pensamientos no gratos ya que Dios es amor y perdón. No obstante, esto no significa que debo seguir cometiendo faltas deliberadamente que vayan en contra de mi fe. En cambio es mi deber como ser humano imperfecto tratar de mejorar mis desperfectos.

Esto me recuerda a una lectura que leí hace un par de semanas que me hizo reflexionar sobre Kintsukuroi, el arte  japonés de reparar la cerámica. Cuando un alfarero (ceramista) hace un tazón, lo hace a mano, lenta y minuciosamente con barro maleable. Al terminarlo es considerado como una escultural y verdadera obra de arte. De la misma forma, nuestro creador nos diseñó meticulosamente. No para encajar con la belleza superficial mundana, sino para cumplir con su voluntad.

En cuanto a Kintsukuroi, el alfarero se enorgullece de presenter esta belleza en su forma más pura. Pero pensemos ¿que sucedería si esa delicadeza se hiciera trizas al caerse? ¿Cuál sería nuestro primer impulso? ¿La repararíamos? ¿La consideraríamos tan linda y delicada como al principio después de hacerse pedazos? ¡No lo creo! La desecharíamos y compraríamos otra en lugar de repararla y elevarla a un nuevo nivel para poder apreciarla por haber sobrevivido.  

En japón a mediados de los años 1500 se les dio un nuevo significado a los tazones rotos, cuando son enmendados su misión es tergiversada y se aprecian aún más. A menudo las fisuras se rellenan con oro porque los japoneses creen que cuando algo ha sido dañado deja una historia atrás, se considera más hermosa por haberse roto y enmendado. Después de esta caída es más resistente y este incidente define el verdadero propósito de este objeto. Este cuerpo cobra una nueva finalidad, su misión comienza en el momento que se fraccionó en pequeñas partículas.

De la misma forma cuando los seres humanos nos equivocamos ya sea espiritual, emocional, física o económicamente, nuestra engañosa y engatusadora mente, nos lleva a creer y sentir que no valemos nada. Sin embargo, nuestro supremo nos da el regalo de la vida y cada amanecer nos brinda muchas oportunidades. Él no nos desprecia y mucho menos nos desecha porque ya no servimos. De lo contrario, si nos arrepentimos verdaderamente de corazón, él pasa por alto nuestros errores, horrores, atrocidades, barbaridades, vulgaridades, pecados y demás.

Él considera cada grieta y fisura como una posibilidad de redimirnos y acercarnos a él para encontrar el camino no elegido por la mayoría de la población a nivel mundial – el camino hacia Dios. El mundo donde es difícil, pero no imposible, mantener una mente firme, un espíritu limpio, un corazón fiel, y una alma pulcra, en un cosmos donde la corrección política es obligatoria, cuando se retira a Dios de todos los lugares. En una sociedad donde todas las impurezas y desfachatezes se imponen ante lo verdadero. En un planeta donde la mayoría se deja llevar por sus arrebatos carnales, banales, materiales, y no están dispuestos a negarse a sí mismos. En una humanidad donde el término ‘Yo,’ es soberano y donde cada vez su mayoría está alejada de Dios y donde día tras día el abismo entre la fe y los humanos crece más. En una tierra donde el temor por defender nuestra religion abunda. En una humanidad donde los altibajos nos llevan a ‘perder la fe cuando desde el principio no se dedica el tiempo, esfuerzo y energía necesarios para fortalecer nuestra relación con Dios.

He conocido a muchas personas que han sufrido por la pérdida de un ser querido, por problemas económicos, físicos, emocionales, etc. Gente que está destrozada por varias razones. Algunas se recuperan y se acercan más a Dios, pero muchos se niegan la oportunidad y se engañan a sí mismo inclinándose a lo ‘más fácil,’ - lo mundane. Para los que se recuperan y ponen a Dios ante todo, sus fisuras e imperfecciones definen su verdadera finalidad concedida por él a su tiempo a su manera – sus grietas concretan la belleza y valor en sus formas más puras, el encanto de Dios.

Por este efecto es nuestro deber inculcar y guiar a futuras generaciones hacia la verdad. A vivir una vida sin miedos defendiendo nuestra religión muy a pesar de lo que los demás piensen de nosotros. A enseñar a nuestros niños y jóvenes a tener fortaleza y convicción para luchar y prevalecer.

También es de suma importancia infundir lo siguiente:
Lo primordial es la espiritualidad para encontrar tan añorada armonía la espiritualidad es lo esencial. Para poder encontrar todo tipo de éxito se necesita un cuerpo sano; para poder tener un cuerpo sano, es necesario tener una mente sana; para tener una mente sana y equilibrada, se necesita fe. Por esto es sumamente importante resistir estos tiempos tan duros y creer y aceptar que todo lo que ha acontecido en cada etapa de tu cruzada – como tu formación, tu pasado, tu vida a hoy en día, tu entorno, tu profesión, tu salud y pasatiempos – ocultan un razonamiento hacia la única realidad – la verdad. Por lo tanto tú tienes derecho a la llave que te guiará hacia las respuestas. Así que no tendrás que divagar muy lejos por mucho tiempo. Tu relación espiritual en conjunto con tus fisuras, te ayudarán a mantener tus pies en la tierra, pero es tu deber aferrarte a Dios con todas tus fuerzas bajo cualquier acontecimiento.
Siempre ten en mente que tu fe y tu relación con Dios son sustanciales. No puedes decir que Dios te ha abandonado cuando no has tomado tiempo para hacer crecer y mejorar tu relación con él.
Ten en mente que cualquier tipo de relación require dedicación, tiempo, devoción, lealtad, esfuerzo, energía, amor, cariño y transparencia. Por ejemplo, para poder tener un jardín bello y grande, las flores, frutas, verduras y árboles que plantas necesitan de tu cuidado. Por lo tanto tienes que regarlos, cuidarlos, brindarles cariño y tiempo constantemente. No puedes esperar que dejando de cuidarlas florecerán. En intercambio de esto, este regalo de Dios a la humanidad te brindará un aire más puro para respirar, uno de los mejores obsequios – la gracia de la naturaleza. Esta aventura de amor es tan importante como cualquier relación de Dios en la que estás. Ya sea la de cónyuge, la de hermano, de padre o madre o cualquier relación natural, la llama tiene que mantenerse viva con el fin de que sea eterna. De acuerdo con esto, la relación personal entre tu yo interno y externo, es el primer y más importante elemento clave para alcanzar la estabilidad emocional.
Siendo así, ¿Por qué no usar el poder divino para aliviar todas tus emociones negativas. La oración es el sustento emocional más poderoso del universo, pero tienes que cumplir con él y poner de tu parte. Por ejemplo, los atletas competitivos de alto rendimiento son buen ejemplo. Portan la vestimenta adecuada digna de concursantes profesionales, y hacen un excelente esfuerzo en mantenerse en buena forma física. Sin embargo, muchos de ellos anhelan la aptitud mental que es tan importante para competir por la Gloria del cielo. Si su mente no se entrega del todo a esta aventura espiritual, siempre perderán. Quizá te preguntas, “¿Qué ganan con esto?” Su ganancia no tiene nada que ver con lo material, más bien acumulan algo más profundo – la paz emocional y la simetría cuando no pueden luchar contra la vida y sus circunstancias.

Ahora es momento para iniciar una vida pulcra y entregada a nuestra religión y obrar, pensar, hablar, escuchar, sentir, oler, hacer todo con amor. A unirnos más y rezar con más devoción. Hoy en día es momento de en lugar de preguntarte, “¿Dónde está Dios cuando más lo necesito? Consulta a tu almohada, llega hasta el fondo de tu corazón y pregúntate esto, ¿Dónde he estado yo, que fisuras tengo que restaurar,  y que he hecho para merecer la Gloria del cielo?

Monday, February 8, 2016

Pain is temporary

Quitting lasts forever
February 8, 2016

Pain is temporary quitting lasts forever.

Pain doesn’t just show up in our lives for no reason. It’s a sign that something needs to change.

The pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow.

 

I lie awake at night trying to find answers at no avail.
Right now I won't be able to do it, perhaps it will never be clear. The lack of motivation to hop out of bed will turn into strength to retaliate and bounce back one day. I shall live to see that.


Friday, February 5, 2016

¿Qué tipo de mujer eres?


¿Una mujer fuerte, o una mujer de fortaleza?
Viernes 5 de febrero del 2016



Una mujer fuerte hace ejercicios todos los días para mantener su cuerpo en forma... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza se arrodilla a orar, para mantener su alma en forma...

Una mujer fuerte no le teme a nada, ni a nadie... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza demuestra su valor a pesar de su temor o de su pánico...

Una mujer fuerte a nadie permite que le quite lo mejor de ella... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza da lo mejor de sí misma a todos, cada uno de los días de su vida...

Una mujer fuerte comete pocos errores y los evita en el futuro... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza se da cuenta de que los errores en la vida también pueden ser bendiciones de Dios, y aprende de ellos...

Una mujer fuerte camina confiada con pasos seguros y firmes... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza sabe que Dios la ayudará a levantarse cada vez que caiga...

Una mujer fuerte muestra en su rostro una expresión de seguridad y confianza en sí misma... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza muestra una expresión de gracia y serenidad...

Una mujer fuerte tiene fe en que tiene fuerza suficiente para su viaje por la vida... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza tiene fe en que el viaje la irá haciendo cada vez más fuerte...

Una mujer fuerte obtiene un compañero fuerte que incremente su fuerza... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza se convierte en la fuerza que hará invencible a su compañero...

Una mujer fuerte enseña a sus hijos a perseguir el éxito en la vida... mientras que una mujer de fortaleza les enseña a perseguir el amor y la virtud...

Monday, February 1, 2016

Buried under a Mountain of Self (Me)

Buried under a Mountain of Self (Me)
February 1, 2016
By: Gina Yoryet Román

And it is ready to crumple before my eyes

They say that every woman is born with it, but I wasn’t, or I neglected my nature all along. During my adolescence this thought never came to me because I was unbeknownst to what it fully entailed. I may not have known completely, but I was certain that deep down I didn’t desire it because of my rough upbringing. In my twenties, I got a somewhat fuller scope through my mother, friends, sisters, co-workers and acquaintances and I still didn’t aspire for it. In my early thirties and now that I am scratching f-o-r-t-y, OMG! Yes! I am still debating it.

Until exactly two weeks ago I was still rowing the wrong direction harder and harder each day to prevent it any cost. But on Tuesday January 26th, my suspicions were confirmed. I was experiencing a bit of insomnia, some swelling and cramps, but I wanted to make myself believe that it couldn’t be possible. But deep down I knew it had happened.

My first reaction was to whatsap a close friend of mine and confide my concern to her. I want to say that I was caught amidst frenzy and joy, but I wasn’t and that doesn’t make me feel very proud. But I was and I still am confined in the midst of panic, fear, worry, anxiety, and overall disgust with my body. I am very restricted physically. On top of my chronic knee injury, this has arised. I am in physical gridlock!

For whatever the Purpose Driven Life means, I don’t want to deny myself the opportunity and blessing to procreate, witness the beginning of a new promise and be an accomplice of the gift of metamorphosis through my temple. I want to live a life without regrets.

Towards the end of the week it sank in more and I accepted it. I am still terrified, daunted, reluctant in a way, and in a way hopeful, and aghast. Part of it is because I have never allowed myself to be completely happy. Why should I allow myself to unveil my real self? As of three days ago, I’ve been more at ease, lying awake at moments during the night, asking myself if I will be a good role model. I feel incapable of caring for me, and much less of another human being.

I won’t know how to react, I won’t know what to do.
I won’t know who to reach out to. For all I know, my woman instincts may kick in and things will work out, they always do. The more I think, the more I give fear room to reside in my mind, heart and soul. The more I am permissive of unease, the more icebound I become. The more I welcome doubt, the more I reject my nature. The more I deny myself to be happy, the more I deny my purpose, my mission, my vision, my dreams.

It all entails to being buried under a mountain of “Self,” “Me,” All my life everyone else has done everything for me. I am the first, last, and most important individual on my list. Not anymore, from the moment I found out till the end of my journey, my circumstances will be different.

Conceivably, I am frightened to give myself up. I want to go against my nature but I am grateful every day for this gift, this blessing, this joy. Today I will stop yearning for the young single woman I once was. Now I can clearly visualize that no matter how much I tried to bypass who I really was for a long period of time, the real me re-emerged. I now realize that one cannot run from oneself because one day, the real one will be disclosed.

And so my real self has disclosed, even if it means that I have to give up the mountain of “Self” to care for someone else.

All I can say is, "Why me, why here, why now?
Every day I am grateful to God and life and instead of asking for my will, I ask for his will
and for me to be humble and accept, for acceptance will set me free.